Pleasure, Please!
The Black Woman's Guide to Unapologetic Pleasure and Confidence
1. Auflage Februar 2026
256 Seiten, Softcover
Wiley & Sons Ltd
A fun, exciting, and informative guide to sexual health, wellness, and pleasure for women of color
In Pleasure, Please! The Black Woman's Guide to Unapologetic Pleasure and Confidence, certified sex educator Ashley Cobb delivers a comprehensive and empowering new exploration of sexual wellness for women of color (and especially Black women). Cobb draws on her extensive experience and expertise in women's health, sexuality, and activism to walk you through everything from individual empowerment to effective ways to confront and overcome the barriers and stigma that Black women face.
You'll discover expert advice interwoven with real stories from real women who have been in your shoes and dealt with the same issues you deal with every day. You'll also find answers to the questions women most frequently ask the author to answer, as well as crystal-clear, informative guidance you can apply in your own life and relationships to help you make your life better now.
Pleasure, Please! also includes:
* Tips and advice on self-love, body positivity, and improving your sense of sexual agency
* Techniques for pleasure and self-exploration to help you enhance your sexual pleasure and explore what you desire - and how to best satisfy those desires
* Specific guidance for navigating the unique sexual health and pleasure challenges that Black women often face
Perfect for all women of color who want to improve their sexual health and get more fulfilment, enjoyment, and pleasure from their bodies, Pleasure, Please! is also an essential read for the partners of those women who want to help and support their partners' sex education and body positivity.
Chapter 1: A Is for Anatomy 1
Chapter 2: B Is for Body Image 13
Chapter 3: C Is for the Clit 21
Chapter 4: D Is for Disrupt the Norm 29
Chapter 5: E Is for Effective Communication 37
Chapter 6: F Is for Foreplay 47
Chapter 7: G Is for Giving Good Head 53
Chapter 8: H Is for Hoe Phases 63
Chapter 9: I Is for Intimacy 71
Chapter 10: J Is for Janet's Rule 77
Chapter 11: K Is for Kink 85
Chapter 12: L Is for Libido and Desire 97
Chapter 13: M Is for Masturbation 107
Chapter 14: N Is for Nontraditional Relationships 115
Chapter 15: O Is for Orgasms 127
Chapter 16: P Is for Painful Sex 137
Chapter 17: Q Is for Quieting the Mind 145
Chapter 18: R Is for Ride 'Em Cowgirl 153
Chapter 19: S Is for Safer Sex 161
Chapter 20: T Is for Toys, Tools, and Techniques 169
Chapter 21: U Is for Unlearning Sexual Myths 177
Chapter 22: V Is for Vaginal Health 183
Chapter 23: W Is for WAP (Wet Ass Pussy) 191
Chapter 24: X Is for X Marks the Spot 199
Chapter 25: Y Is for Years of Pleasure 207
Chapter 26: Z Is for Zero F*cks, All Pleasure 217
Acknowledgments 221
About the Author 225
Index 227
"Pleasure, Please! is a revelation, a joyful and unapologetic guide that centers Black women's pleasure, confidence, and healing. With warmth, humor, and honesty, Ashley Cobb reclaims our right to desire and delight, helping us unlearn shame and embrace pleasure as a pathway to self-knowledge, wholeness, and freedom."
--DR. UCHÉ BLACKSTOCK, Founder and CEO, Advancing Health Equity; NY Times Best-selling Author of Legacy: A Black Physician Reckons with Racism in Medicine
"Ashley Cobb is the definition of shameless--and I mean that as the highest compliment possible. In a world that still tries to make Black women feel guilty for wanting pleasure, for claiming it, or for speaking it aloud, Ashley stands boldly in the center of that discomfort and turns it into power. Her work has always been a mirror, reflecting what's possible when we choose truth over taboo and joy over judgment.
I love Ashley for the same reason I admire her work--because she refuses to apologize for pleasure. Through her words, she gives Black women permission to exhale, to explore, to name their desires without flinching. This book is more than education; it's liberation."
--SHAN BOODRAM, AASECT certified sex educator, author, and host of LOVERS podcast