Living Like You Mean It
Use the Wisdom and Power of Your Emotions to Get the Life You Really Want
1. Auflage März 2009
208 Seiten, Hardcover
Wiley & Sons Ltd
In LIVING LIKE YOU MEAN IT, author Ronald J. Frederick, does a
brilliant job of describing why people are so afraid of their
emotions and how this fear creates a variety of problems in their
lives. While the problems are different, the underlying issue is
often the same. At the core of their distress is what Dr. Frederick
refers to as feelings phobia. Whether it s the experience of love,
joy, anger, sadness, or surprise, our inborn ability to be a fully
feeling person has been hijacked by fear--and it s fear that s
keeping us from a better life.
The book begins with a questionnaire-style list that help
readers take an honest look at themselves and recognize whether and
how they are afraid of their feelings. It then moves on to explore
the origins of fear of feeling and introduces a four-part program
for overcoming the fear: (1) Become aware of and learn to recognize
feelings--anger, sadness, joy, love, fear, guilt/shame, surprise,
disgust. (2) Master techniques for taming the fear. (3) Let the
feeling work its way all the way through to its resolution. (4)
Open up and put those feelings into words and communicate them
confidently. With wisdom, humor, and compassion, the book uses
stories and examples to help readers see that overcoming feelings
phobia is the key to a better life and more fulfilling
relationships.
Introduction xiii
Part One: Preparation
1 To Feel or Not to Feel 3
2 How the Heck Did I Get This Way? 23
Part Two: Taking Action
3 Step One: Becoming Aware of Your Feelings 45
4 Step One, Continued: Becoming Aware of Your Defenses 64
5 Step Two: Taming the Fear 87
6 Step Three: Feeling It Through 108
7 Step Four: Opening Up 131
8 Putting It All Together 151
Conclusion: Making a Choice 170
Appendix: Seeking Professional Help 173
Notes 175
The Author 179
Index 181
"What a joy it is to read Dr. Ron Frederick's Living Like You Mean It. Well informed, accessible and engaging, this wonderful book is full of powerful strategies that will enliven your soul, enrich your relationships, and help you have a more deeply meaningful life. I recommend it with enthusiasm!" --John Bradshaw, NY Times bestselling author of Healing the Shame that Binds You
"With compelling insight into the way emotion shapes our lives, Living Like You Mean It invites us on a tremendously useful journey into the mind and brain and shows us how the day-to-day ways we defend against feeling our feelings keeps us from living the lives we really want. But no more! Through practical suggestions, compelling stories, and powerful insights, this book dishes up a readily accessible plan to free us from the prison of our own fear of feeling. Frederick is a liberating guide--and after joining him on this trek, you'll be ready to feel fully alive!" --Daniel J. Siegel, MD, director, the Mindsight Institute, and author of The Mindful Brain
"Brimming with heart and soul, and scientifically sound, Living Like You Mean It is a brilliant book for anyone wanting to get unstuck and live a happier, more fulfilling life." --Marci Shimoff, NY Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason
"Ron Frederick is a master therapist and a gifted teacher. With energy and passion, he guides the reader through the vibrant inner landscape of the emotions. The tools and insights he offers can help prevent depression and anxiety. Even more, they point the way toward a vital and engaged life--a life fully lived." --Henry Emmons, MD, author of The Chemistry of Joy
RONALD J. FREDERICK, Ph.D., is a cofounder of the Center for Courageous Living, which offers innovative therapy, coaching, and consulting. He is a licensed psychologist and life coach with more than fifteen years experience helping people get the life they really want. Frederick is a senior faculty member of the Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy Institute as well as the clinical supervisor of Park House, an outpatient program of Abbott Northwestern Hospital in Minneapolis, Minnesota.
