Get Off Your "But"
How to End Self-Sabotage and Stand Up for Yourself
1. Edition May 2009
240 Pages, Hardcover
Wiley & Sons Ltd
ISBN:
978-0-470-39993-4
John Wiley & Sons
A hands-on guide for overcoming the forces of negativity and self-sabotage
Written for the active, not passive participant, this book offers an inspiring program for overcoming big bumps in the road, eliminating excuses, ending insecurities, and standing up for happiness and success in life. Based on the author's personal story, clinical training and work as a therapist, and extensive experience speaking and teaching, Get Off Your "But" shows how to overcome excuses for emotional paralysis, build self-confidence at work and at home, and achieve a higher level of success in career and relationships.
Acknowledgments vii
Foreword by Anthony Robbins ix
Born to Kick BUT: The Short Story of a Big Life 1
Lesson 1 Start Connecting 34
How Rene Got Off His BUT 64
Lesson 2 Watch What You Say to Yourself! 70
How Bobby Got Off His BUT 97
Lesson 3 Master Your Physical Confidence 103
How Andréa Got Off Her BUT 132
Lesson 4 Focus Your Focus 138
How Mike Got Off His BUT 159
Lesson 5 Choose Your Friends Wisely 164
How Peter Got Off His BUT 188
Lesson 6 Take Full Responsibility 193
One Last Thing . . . 220
Resources 221
The Author 225
Foreword by Anthony Robbins ix
Born to Kick BUT: The Short Story of a Big Life 1
Lesson 1 Start Connecting 34
How Rene Got Off His BUT 64
Lesson 2 Watch What You Say to Yourself! 70
How Bobby Got Off His BUT 97
Lesson 3 Master Your Physical Confidence 103
How Andréa Got Off Her BUT 132
Lesson 4 Focus Your Focus 138
How Mike Got Off His BUT 159
Lesson 5 Choose Your Friends Wisely 164
How Peter Got Off His BUT 188
Lesson 6 Take Full Responsibility 193
One Last Thing . . . 220
Resources 221
The Author 225
In Stephenson's powerful and practical debut, the psychotherapist and professional speaker reveals how to banish self-doubt and insecurity in a world where they may seem omnipresent. Beginning with the source of his own struggle, a rare and painful disease that causes his bones to weaken and break under minimal pressure, Stephenson offers a structured approach to a wide array of topics, including dating, weight loss, lack of motivation, friendship, finances, and goals. While his advice is encouraging and insightful, Stephenson's text is also notable for examples, mottos and resonant personal stories of enormous obstacles and accomplishments (his work with the Clinton administration, attaining his Ph.D., opening his own private practice). Though his unwavering optimism can be daunting (bringing one's day-to-day gripes into sharp relief), Stephenson is empowering and uplifting throughout, and should prove helpful whether facing a lifelong challenge or a more immediate battle. (May) (PublishersWeekly.com, May 18, 2009)
Sean Clinch Stephenson is one of the leading authorities on the deconstruction of self-sabotage (what he calls getting people off their BUTs). A psychotherapist and internationally known professional speaker, he publishes audio and video programs from his online site TimeToStand.com and has a private psychotherapy practice.
